I have been practicing some form of meditation since the beginning of 2015. It has been part of my #ResponsiveResolutions (12 monthly resolutions instead of 1 yearly) project, which I’ve regretfully not been consistently blogging about. On the topic of meditation though, I’ve learned a lot about my own personal practice and about myself in general. It’s an interesting topic and journey, and it is something I think everyone could benefit from. Here’s what a typical Q&A conversation goes like.

Why did you start?

To be honest, I started exploring the topic because of the hype I’ve read about it. It seems like every successful business executive to entrepreneur attributes some level of their success to daily meditation. A little bit of curiosity and some research later, I was in…and hooked. As I mentioned in the intro, every month I am exploring a new ‘habit’ to modify. This was a habit that would also strengthen my (desired) habit of waking up earlier and investing in myself.

What are you learning?

There are three major learnings that I have gathered from this journey. Absolutely most critical: you need to make meditation a ritual. You also can’t expect it to be perfect out of the gate and, journaling can help you learn about yourself and adapt meditation to be more successful for you.

Make it a Ritual

First things first was to figure out ‘when’ I could find the time to meditate. I thought about doing a mid-day meditation…trying to break the stress of the day in half. I quickly concluded that this would be a hard ritual to keep. My next choice would be to do it in the morning. At the time, my morning rituals would consist of sleeping until 7am, helping get the kids up, feeding the pets, showering and taking off for rush hour traffic. I knew if I tried to fit in even 15 minutes of quiet time for myself — it likely wouldn’t work either. Luckily I was already keeping a monthly resolution to get up early (5am). Meditation felt like a perfect way to help strengthen that ritual and also give it purpose. Obviously, 5am isn’t required for this. Setting your morning alarm for 20 minutes earlier is all that would be needed.

Shoot First, Then Aim and Adjust

My research warned me there was no ‘right way’ to meditate. It’s a little bit of the old saying “you get what you put in”. Unfortunately, this means a little trial and error and some patience is required. It will take some time to find out what works for you. So, you should go in with a commitment of at least a couple weeks. Experiment a little. First try to force yourself to think about nothing. Focusing only on breathing is a good way to do this. Also, experiment with thinking about just one thing. In both cases, as your mind might wander, bring it back to your focus.

Write About It

I wrote another post completely dedicated to Journaling. I think this is absolutely critical. It doesn’t need to be a lengthy saga about the experience. It could just be a few sentences in a Field Notes notebook or anywhere for that matter. I like small physical notebooks because they are simple and can go anywhere with me. Write about what you are thinking after meditation. This will help you tune in to the output of the meditation. Something quick and dirty, no more than 5 minutes time. Also, very important: always re-read your written thoughts…often. This will help you discover about yourself and will help you fine-tune your practices.

Specifically, What do you think about?

This is the #1 question, but I saved it for last. Every day is a little different for me. Some days, I just want to “stop thinking”. I wake up and my mind instantly starts going. A colleague of mine often says, “sometimes you need to slow down to speed up”. This slow-down practice helps me enter the day, usually with a journaling session, with clear mind. Other days, I want to focus on a specific topic. Usually, I’m trying to drill something into my head or explore that topic for alternative ideas. For example, I may focus my session entirely on how I need to be more patient in my life. Or, how I am going to deliver difficult feedback to a family member. Another day, I might just think about what I NEED to get done for the day. In any of the cases, I have learned to enter my meditation session with a specific goal in mind.

Big Take Aways

Be intentional about using your “me” time. No matter what you do during your “meditation”, it will benefit you best if you set goals, dedicate time to think (or not think) about it and measure your progress along the way.

Journaling has become a valuable tool in many successful people’s toolboxes. But if you haven’t had a chance to give it a try, you may wonder, “What are the benefits of journaling and how can I use it as a tool to help me accomplish my goals?”

For one of the months for my Responsive Resolutions, I decided to try journaling every day. I had heard of the benefits of journaling from colleagues, but had never actually spent the time to commit to it. However, I was willing to suck it up and try it, at least for a month.

Finding time to journal was actually relatively easy. I decided to keep my first month’s resolution of waking up at 5 am – which on a side note, has been a game changer for my productivity. I now have plenty of time to get a work out in, write, read or now journal before the craziness of the day begins.

“Writing about myself always seemed superficial”

I’ll admit I was a bit of a skeptic with the idea of journaling. Writing about myself always seemed superficial. I never fashioned myself as a guy that kept a “diary”. I already spent a lot of time reflecting on my personal life, work, goals, etc. Writing them down almost seems redundant to me.

What I found was kind of interesting.

Benefits of Journaling

“…the things I am reflecting on are always within my control”

The process of journaling wasn’t so much about writing, as it was planning. I was learning a lot about myself, as I would expect, but it was the increase in productivity that really caught my interest.

Over the course of reflecting on success/mistakes of the past and setting new goals for the future, one thing always stood out in my mind: the things I am reflecting on are always within my control.

“Why am I not doing anything about it?”

So, naturally my reflection of these thoughts was, “Why am I not doing anything about it?” THIS is where the magic happens. Inevitably, this reflection caused me to take some action, even if it is only to add an item to my task list. I don’t beat myself up over anything, but taking some action to improve the future ensures I am always growing.

My journaling has drastically shifted away from free-form writing or prompt/question and answer to more of a goal review and task planning for the day. Here’s a quick look at the structure and benefits of journaling I am seeing in my daily life.

Journaling Outline

Time To Complete: 10 minutes

Completed/Failed

Each journaling session starts out with a list of things I have completed or failed in the day(s) since I wrote last. This can be anything noteworthy, planned or unplanned. The goal is to acknowledge accomplishments, which is often a step that we over look and call out mistakes for further reflection.

Benefit: This is my way of measuring productivity and creating focus on personal growth. Reviewing the last few journal entries also gives me the opportunity to make sure no Must-Do tasks are getting left behind.

Must Do

After I review the pervious journal entries and get my Completed list done, I transition into my must-do list. As the name describes, this list is designed to reflect on the things I must do that day. Often these task items were already on a task list somewhere, but by journaling about them first thing in the morning, I am mentally moving them to a fresher part of my brain. And if I know I can’t complete something in the given day, I move it to my longer-term digital task list.

Benefit: This prevents me from filling up my Must Do list with with items I can’t complete and gives me much better focus for the day.

Learn/Share/Give

The third list I create is a “learn, share or give” list. This list is a catch-all for anything that I want to accomplish, but is not a Must Do item and doesn’t really fit the category of a task. It includes things like ideas for learning or sharing information and goals toward giving back to others. Sometimes i use this space in my journal to do a diagram about a problem I want to solve or an idea I want to explore.

Benefit: This area achieves the advantageous of free-form writing and I can often generate new ideas from just a few minutes of time reflecting.

I highly recommend The Decision Book by Mikael Krogerus. Each page is a different diagram that you can model to make decisions as well as explore different ideas, alternatives, etc. I use this weekly for new ideas on ways to tackle problems or make decisions.

The benefits of journaling are really personal. It can be an outlet for thoughts or simply a way to better plan your day. Whatever the benefits, I encourage you to give it a try and experiment. Often it takes some trial and error, as it did for me, to find the sweet spot.

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Month #5 – Meditation

Why did you start?

What are you learning?

Specifically, What do you think about?

Big Take Aways